- Mediation is both less expensive and quicker than having a long drawn out battle in court.
- Outcomes reached in mediation are longer lasting than decisions imposed by a court. This is because decisions made in mediation are made by the parents themselves. Court orders may not be what either of the people involved wanted or hoped for. This can mean that the order isn’t followed and that those involved end up back in court facing more stress, upset and cost.
- Mediation is carried out in private and can be arranged at a time that suits both parents and is confidential.
- Mediation is less stressful, with less conflict between you and your partner. If you have children it is less upsetting for them. It can help find ways for everyone involved to get on better in the future.
- Mediation improves communication and helps you sort out your future.
If you are separating or divorcing, family mediation can help you sort out disputes – without involving big legal fees or going through court. Mediation is not about trying to get you back together. It’s about helping you to make arrangements after you’ve decided to separate.
It can also help when you’ve already separated and need to sort something out. You and your partner (or ex-partner) explain your concerns and views to each other in the presence of a family mediator who helps you both to reach an agreement.
Family mediation supports parents, children and family members through family change and disruption. However it also takes place in other circumstances, including disputes over the provision of care for a relative, or in a dispute between family members such as a mother and son.
Family mediators are trained to work with people whose relationships have broken down. Mediators will find solutions that both of you can agree on. A mediator will ask you questions to understand your situation and, unlike going to court, you stay in control. No-one can make you do anything against your wishes. Discussions are confidential. We don’t take sides, make judgements or tell you what to do. What we do do, is help you have a discussion about the choices you may have and then work on what is getting in the way of achieving those. The aim is to avoid a lengthy and costly legal battle and ensure that you are in control of the decision making process.
Children have the right to a relationship with both parents (as long as it is safe) and their needs are most important. We are trained to include children in discussions but only if both you, your partner and the child agree.
We also know that mediation agreements work; simply because if you are part of creating a plan for your future, you have a vested interest or reason to make that plan work – for you.
Contact us as soon as you and your partner have decided to split up and need help sorting out arrangements – the sooner the better, before the issues become big problems. You don’t need to see a solicitor first. Or if you have already split up contact us as soon as you feel there are difficulties in agreeing arrangements.
Even if you have been separated for a while or if your case has already gone to court, mediation can help to resolve any dispute you may have. The first step is to attend a meeting with the mediator so you can find out more about mediation and if it’s right for you.
We also, uniquely offer coaching to clients when the other party involved in a dispute is not willing to enter into mediation. We will support an individual client through the dispute, towards a more positive outcome.
If you are reading this and curious about how we can help you and your family ring 07921 868 425 for a confidential, no obligation chat. Alternatively drop us an email on email@example.com if you’d like to find out more.